How Should You Handle Dream Stealers

The Dream Stealers

Throughout my life, my friends and folks have offered me advice.

And though they meant the best for me, it often wasn’t nice.

They’d always say my plans were just more crazy schemes.

And every time I listened, I let them steal my dreams.

I guess they feared, in case I failed, that I really shouldn’t try.

So I never spread my wings and never learned to fly.

But they’re just folks who only see the world the way it seems,

And I’m no longer going to let those people steal my dreams.

-Author Unknown

Are there people in your life who steal your dreams? Maybe you had a great business idea and you told your friends and family all about it only to be told that you are just a dreamer and that you were only wasting your time pursuing it. Maybe they told you nicely, maybe they were mean in the way they tried to “help” you.

Either way, as the poem goes above, you should never listen to other people who are critical about your dreams, it’s just their way of seeing the world. Most people are stuck in a “get a real job” mentality and have absolutely no vision in their lives. You are different, you want something better than average for yourself.

How you handle dream stealers? Should you ignore them? Should you stop being their friend? Should you laugh at them? Is there a time you should listen to them?

In my opinion, here’s how you should handle them:

  1. Hear what they have to say
  2. Think about their advice for a brief moment
  3. Give your insight on their advice
  4. If Necessary, walk away

Hear what they have to say

Have respect for those who give you advice and listen to what they have to say first. The last thing you want to do is to be disrespectful to those who are only giving advice because they truly believe they are helping you. It may be very possible that they are not giving you advice against your dream or against your business idea, they may be trying to help you achieve your desired outcome faster.

You will unfortunately also encounter those who will give you advice against your goals, calling you a dreamer, telling you to “get a real job,” or telling you that you are not good enough or not smart enough to achieve your desired outcome. The best way to handle these people is to hear what they have to say, and show them respect. Sometimes these very people will see that you were right and that they were wrong, and may become an asset to your business later in life. So, always listen and show respect. Listening does not mean following or doing what someone says.

Think about their advice for a brief moment

Think about their advice for a few minutes and see how it stacks up to your goals, it may prompt additional ideas in your mind as to how you can more easily or more quickly you can achieve your desired outcome.

If they are giving you advice completely against your business idea, then you know there is absolutely no value that their advice will give you.

Give your insight on their advice

Once you have thought about what they told you, it’s time for you to respond to their advice. If their advice prompted additional inspiration about how you can achieve your desired outcome faster, let them know about it. You can say “hey, you just gave me a great idea.”

If their advice was completely negative and against your goals, you can respectfully respond by saying “you know, I see that you care about me and I appreciate it, but this is what I know I should be doing right now, so respectfully, I must disagree with your advice.” This does a couple things, first it states your position on their idea, and it also lets them know that you will not let anything get in the way of your desired outcome and they will likely not try to bother you about it again

Be firm, but be respectful at the same time.

If Necessary, walk away

It’s a good idea after giving your insight to change the subject to something else, so they don’t continue to rain on your parade. If they are insistent that you are wasting your time and they are adamant against your dreams, then you may want to think about walking away.

Walking away is not a sign of disrespect, it’s sending a message to your dream stealer loud and clear, that you will not tolerate their so-called “help.”

If they don’t get the message the first time, they will the second or third time.

Should you stop being friends with this person? Only if they persist in trying to steal away your dreams, because at that point, they are no loner looking out for your best interest, and they no longer mean well. They are either jealous of your success or they think they are better than you and therefore you should listen to them and not to your own heart. You don’t have time for people like this in your life, it’s time to let them go. You will make more friends who are more like-minded with you and with your goals, so don’t feel like you will have fewer friends, that person who treats you that way is not your friend anyway.

Bottom line, don’t let anyone steal your dreams away. If you pursue your dreams and never give up, you will achieve them. Often those who achieve their dreams make a lot more money than those who steal dreams. Who will have the upper hand then? Who will be driving a BMW 7 series while the other continues to drive their Toyota Corolla? Who will fly in first class eating a gourmet meal while the other sits in coach class eating peanuts? Who will get to stay in a Penthouse hotel room, while the other sleeps in a stuffy motel room?

Get my drift? Don’t let anyone steal your dreams….

2 thoughts on “How Should You Handle Dream Stealers”

  1. I totally agree in what you wrote in how to handle dream stealers. Sometimes you really should listen to what people have to say, cause they can give you their experience and mistakes that you can learn from.

    I did encounter from my own family members too when I wanted to start a new business quite a few years ago. After sharing my dreams to my family, one of them say “you will never be successful, it will not work out for you, its better if you get ‘a real job'”.

    Luckily I didn’t listen to that, ignore it and walk away. Focusing on making it work. And I’m glad I did it! Or I don’t think I will be happy and content like what I am today 🙂

    1. Yes, family and friends can mean well, but sometimes what they say can be destructive. It’s always good to have a firm commitment to achieve our goals and dreams so that nobody with a negative attitude can knock you off course. 

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